If you go to the store and purchase healthy snacks, you’ll have healthy munchies to
choose from when the cravings come. That’s it! Those are your options. Same with
what’s in your closet, amIright? Right!
But then you look in the mirror, and your reflection tells you distorted stories to
derail you. It’s then that nothing in your closet is a good match for those wrinkles
or the greys, and no item of clothing purchased could hide the thighs and the
soft butt. Nope! That’s not you anymore because you’ve updated your mental
purchases to sync with reality.
If you’ve been here a few decades like I have, your reality is such that you have
wrinkles and more than a few grey hairs, but nothing about that fact is a downer.
So please do not rebel about what you see in the mirror. You are alright!
We talked about simmering in society’s pot and merging a few days ago.
- about renewing promises with humility
- about changes we’re exposed to daily– it comes to all regardless of
whether we’re ready for it or not, - about midlife being a time of rebirth and acceptance
- and about learning to choose
Midlife is the Age of Miracles.
–Embracing the New Midlife by Marianne Williamson
We’ve had struggles; we overcame them
we’ve stumbled and fallen in all sorts of ways; we got up
we were there — we were the young crowd,
now we’re here — the mature ones.
Maturity is synonymous with optimism. Not the kind of optimism we experienced
yesterday when we were the young ones, but the kind of optimism that makes us
raise a knowing eyebrow that speaks of bittersweet, experience, and knowing.
Sure we’ve lost some things that we would have wanted to hold on to forever, namely
our youth, but we’ve also gained others, namely that knowing eyebrow move, along
with a lot more that we didn’t even know we had access to.
Tell me this isn’t so!
Tell me!
We have a good grip on things now
Gravity will still exist, but now we understand that switching to the belief that a different path is possible opens neurons and synapses in our brains, causing a new wave frequency to arise from that choice. We’re acting on a vision now, and Werner Hans Erhard, founder of est organization (Read about him here🙂 has helped us to understand much. Now we know what kind of choices to make.
Thoroughly unprepared we take the steps into the afternoon of life;
worse still, we take this step with the false assumption that our truths
and ideas will serve us in hitherto. But we cannot live the afternoon
of life according to the programme of life’s morning; for what was
great in the morning will be little at evening, and what in the morning
was true will at evening have become a lie.— Carl Jung, Stages of Life.
We ordinary people must forge our own beauty.
We must set fire to the greyness of our labor
with the art of our own lives…
What is the essence of this art of living?
Of course, even this art should have beauty
as its essence.
” Do I contradict myself? Very well then,
Song of Myself (1892 version)
I contradict myself
(I am large, I contain multitudes.)”
BY WALT WHITMAN
I have confidence you will be okay with your *becoming*
Thanks for reading. Now I can go confidently into *becoming*
#iWishYouMiracles.
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Beautiful & very nice post
I agree with you Selma. Growing older means coming to terms with what we are becoming with grace
Thank you, Selma, for sharing this helpful perspective on aging <3 When I was in high school, there was a woman in our town who was in her eighties. Her hair was dyed a dark shade of brown, her face caked and powdered with makeup, her cheeks rouged, and her lips a dark red. She was a nice woman, but she looked like an aging vampire! With a lot less effort she could have looked a lot better! I look back on her and resolve not to try too hard to look younger.
Wonderful post, Selma👏🏼👌🏼
Great advice on being happy with where and what we are, Selma 🙏
We become in different ways. One benefit of older age (at least where I am) are discounts and (even with paying for supplemental insurance)… physical checkups, dental check ups twice a year. Free gym, some free perscription and other drugs…(like bandages or toothpaste even, every three months) – though in realilty we have already paid for these things through working most of our lives.
I have always embraced my changes. And now I’m able to take in house gym and online classes everyday of the week. Besides just walking 😉 I’ve also never been into fashion. So my wardrobe gets changed with charity shop finds. Withdrawing from those memberships that no longer serve and joining new activities that promote fun. Those are good choices. Food – healthy is good but some sweets in moderation is also fine.
Now is certainly the time to enjoy the full length of the day into eve, from what ever time we choose to start it until we choose to shut our eyes. Our steps may be slower, but I believe they are surer. And if anyone asks… then I’ll give advice 😉
Now if we can just get the political world to actually work for all the people and all that inhabit the earth. *sigh*
Thanks for you generous comment, dear Jules.
In the end, your comment about the political world working for all is a sentiment that lingers everywhere. May it all fall into place one day soon.
Be well, Jules. I bless you. Happy Birthday to you. XoXo
The other day I took a photo of the sunflowers with my cell phone… I hope to some how get one to you via email or mail soon!
October is a good month for birthdays!! Bestt to you!
Blessing your way, everyday (((Hugs)))
Beautiful message Selma! We are more than our aging selves!💕