Encouragement: A Repost– An Ode To The First Man I Loved

Today, Sunday, would have been my dear father’s birthday.

My daddy turned 57 in October of ’84 and hardly a month later suffered a massive
heart attack that sent him into that final good night. I was very young when that
happened and thought of my father as very old. But then I arrived at 57 and gasped,
realizing how wrong I was back then and how lucky I am to have crossed over the
thresholds my father never completed.

So today, for my Sunday Press
(sundae, soondae, serene Sunday)
I wish to repost the revised poem
I wrote for my daddy
when I turned 57.

Because…

          “Old as she was,
       she still missed her
               daddy sometimes.”

                                  ~ Gloria Naylor BrainyQuotes, Gloria Naylor
Png father, daughter walking in the rain
My hero's cape was the transparent kind
and to me, it was enormous
it wrapped around me tenfold,
embracing my shortcomings
on the days I needed magic
(with his prompting)
enchanted sanctuaries I’d find
rapturous, idolizing,
without seeing in him a fault...

But he left before the fax machine
became an essential practicality
before CD-ROM for computers,
CDs, DVDs, and JPEG

Of digital cameras
he knew– no nuthin’
of the Discman, the iPod,
photoshopping– clueless!

GPS/the WORLD WIDE WEB
Google/Smartphones/e-mail?
These might sound to him like riddles,
but today, they are a given.

I woulda love to have video-chatted
instructed him in tech-lingo
he’d be just another grandad
never to be in limbo.

He woulda loved watching musicals
on my flat-screen boob tube; 
learned about TheWi-Fi,
TheFacebook, TheTwitter, & YouTube.

The roles woulda been reversed
as with patience, I’d have taught him
of all those things for functionality,
that technology fitted us to the brim.

I’d have talked,
he’d have listened
I’d have instructed,
he’d have learned…

But of the things far more important,
presenting him to my darling husband
my proudest moment
that woulda been grand!

And my babies– just to have held them
while sniffing their little heads
what joy it woulda brought me
had he seen them turning into little men.

— He was called before the fax machine
became an item of practicalism
but his little girl never has forgotten
how to love, laugh, dream & celebrate
under the cape of life’s realism

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© selma

Happy Birthday to my daddy, who’s still snug safely in my heart, and to whom I
dedicate this poem on this special Sunday in October.

Note: Like global warming, none of the listed items in the poem would have been
topics of conversation (in my country) when he was alive. So, in reality, he
missed nothing; it IS I who missed having him around.

Life unfolds as we live it, and I cannot wait to find out more of its magic.


Update on In The Shadow of Rainbows:

Product details

  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1739404440
  • Product Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6 x 0.27 x 9 inches; 5.76 Ounces
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ July 12, 2023
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Experiments in Fiction
  • Country of Origin ‏ : ‎ USA
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1739404444
  • Release date ‏ : ‎ July 12, 2023

ASIDE: this little gem DID MAKE IT TO #1 in Nature Poetry. (just sayin’)
and
color me naive,
(!-I just found out-!)
made the bestseller’s list!!
Thank you so MUCHO.

And this week, it got a lovely review on Amazon from Michele Lee:
Thank you, gracious lady.

In the Shadow of a Rainbow I found "my" poem

Reviewed in the United States on October 3, 2023
Verified Purchase
I recently finished reading poet Selma Martin’s debut collection,
In the Shadow of Rainbows, published by Experiments in Fiction.
Selma’s highly engaging collection offers a premise in the
introduction that added a layer of enticement and interest
to the reading experience.

The author writes: “I’m confident that one poem in this book will take
your hand, reunite you with your echo and take you home – found and
richer with you-ness for having been seen. That’s what I want one poem
to do for you.” After admiring the gorgeous cover, I was excited to accept
Selma’s invitation of finding “that one poem.” I tabbed several poems as
a maybe. When I got to page 90 and read “For an Hour,” I instantly knew
I had found “the one.” Reading Selma's poem aloud under a golden crescent
moon made my discovery profoundly true. I have the pleasure of following
Selma's blog and have been enjoying her beautifully crafted poetry for some
time but there is something special about holding a writer's work in your
hands. I highly recommend Selma’s collection and extend her invitation of
finding the one poem for you.

Michele Lee also uploaded a photo of the book. Thanks, sweet one.
(I wanted to share it but… having problems with photo file)

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recited the poem that spoke to her on My Inspired Life. Please click
the link below to listen and see the photo too.

My Inspired Life Website 9-24-23


Thanks for this loveliness!

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Happy Sunday, everyone.

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This Post Has 44 Comments

  1. Ingrid

    Thinking of you, Selma 🙏❤️ it is quite a revelation when one becomes older than a parent who died some time ago. I have been thinking about this a lot myself recently.

    1. Selma Martin

      Thanks, Ingrid. It’s an emotional thing indeed. My sister, fourth down after me, had a birthday four days ago. She turned our Daddy’s age: 57! Gosh, it happens—it made it all the more real. That age!
      I hope you’re well, dear Ingrid. I send you healing graces for deep introspection. 🤗 ✨

  2. trE

    May his soul forever rest in peace. Blessings to you, Selma, on his birthday. 🙏🏾💙

    1. Selma Martin

      Aww, teE. Thanks so much, dear one. Blessings to you too. 🫶🏽👊🏽

      1. trE

        You’re most welcome! Thank you!

  3. beth

    a lovely ode to your father on this special day <3

    1. Selma Martin

      So happy to know you think it so, dear Beth. Have a splendid Sunday, my friend. 🫶🏽

  4. Sadje

    I’m here would have loved to meet your husband and sons. A beautiful poem to Pat tribute to your dad, Selma

    1. Selma Martin

      I would have loved to introduce him to my gang and life now. Unbelievable!! But I want to believe he is the shadow I see around now.
      Thanks for reading, Sadje. Happy Sunday. Xoxo

  5. Dawn Minott

    Here’s a virtual hug 🤗 dear Selma. Thankfully memories don’t leave us. May his soul continue to rest in peace.

  6. Anonymous

    that’s a beautiful dedication to your father. the happiest of birthday greetings to him.

    my father can be a pain in my butt, but i’ve realized the old man is a crafty veteran of life that I can still learn alot from 🙂

    1. Selma Martin

      Hey Anonymous. Thanks
      Hey Anonymous are you over 21 y.o?
      Here’s something I hope you enjoy:
      ““When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.”
      ~ Mark Twain Quote”
      😃 👏🏽 all the best. Xoxo (who are you)

    1. Selma Martin

      Thanks for coming to read, dearest Khaya. Bless you.

  7. Cheryl, Gulf Coast Poet

    A loving tribute in memory of your father on his birthday, Selma. He will always be in your heart. <3

    1. Selma Martin

      Yes he will. Thanks for reading my old poem dear Cheryl. Xoxo

  8. Thattamma C.G Menon

    So touching story , an Ode To The First man I Loved🙏❤️🌷 Father’s always be in our heart , because
    In there they still alive 👏🏼👍 You are absolute best daughter for him and I tribute your
    Great Dad 👍Life may not turn out the way we expect dear friend 🙏🥰🎊Prayers 🙏
    Stay Blessed and Loved 😍💐

    1. Selma Martin

      You have a beautiful heart. Thanks for these words. Xoxo Selma.

      1. Thattamma C.G Menon

        Thank you so much for this lovely reply message and graceful wishes dear friend 🌹🙏🥰👌💗🌹

  9. sgeoil

    This is a lovely ode to your father. Thankfully, there is lots of space in our hearts to carry those we loved where ever we are.

    1. Selma Martin

      There is. A bottom less heart we all carry. Thanks for reading and commenting. Blessings.

    1. Selma Martin

      I appreciate you saying. Appreciate the comment. Xoxo

  10. Jasper Hoogendam

    Your tribute to your father and later reflection highlights how slowly and subtly our perspective and understanding changes, to be reminded when we revisit a fixed point in the past. Thank you.

    1. Selma Martin

      Hello Jasper. I’m grateful you appreciated this piece as I meant it.
      The past with landmarks comes with us as lasting memories. Hard to believe we lived through all that. Glad to be able to tell the story still.
      I appreciate you reading and commenting. Blessings xoxo and THANK YOU. 😊

  11. rajkkhoja

    Beautiful tribute to your father.
    Very nice written this poem. Blessings to you, Selma, on his birthday.💙💐

  12. Michele Lee

    I needed more time to sit with this special post, sweet Selma. I am so glad for it. Your personal share and poem are both moving. 💞

    1. Selma Martin

      You’re sweet —thanks for reading and commenting. So happy you enjoyed it dear one.
      And thank you for the lovely review and reading. You’re amazing. Xoxo happy new week

  13. memadtwo

    How lucky you were to have had a father so well loved and remembered! I’m sure his spirit has shared all your joys. (K)

    1. Selma Martin

      Oh, K. Bless you for saying this. So glad you read. Have a happy new week. Xo

  14. Belladonna

    Thank you for sharing this beautiful poem. Isn’t funny what we viewed as old and now here we are!

    1. Selma Martin

      It’s funny indeed.
      I just shared a funny Mark Twain quote with someone. Now I want to share with my Bella:
      ““When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.”
      ~ Mark Twain Quote”

      Happy new week. 👏🏽 💗

  15. Maria Michaela

    It’s such a beautiful ode. I’d like to think he’s very proud of what you’ve done, Selma. 💙💙💙

    1. Selma Martin

      Thanks my sweet. Blessings.

      I’ve got to take a little time off. Don’t worry it’s just recharging
      I hope I do t lose you.
      I hope to see you when I return.
      In the meantime, I wish you miracles. Xoxo

  16. Bridgette

    Oh, he sounds so wonderful. How lucky you were to have him and I’m sure he’s looking down at you with pride at the life you’ve crafted for yourself.

    1. Selma Martin

      I think you’re right. He knows… So happy your read this one too. xoxo

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